![]() Never forget for a second that you are a queen and that you deserve to be with someone who will love you and respect you and treat you right. They show that your partner is not valuing you in the way that you should be valued. These actions are symptoms of a larger problem. If you are being cheated on, that’s a problem. If your wants and needs are ignored or mocked, that’s a problem. However, if you are not being treated as an equal partner in the relationship, that’s a problem. You Do Not Get Treated with the Respect You DeserveĪnyone who is married for more than a few years understands that there will be ups and downs. Narcissists typically don’t change as it is a personality trait (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).ĭon’t stay in an abusive relationship thinking that they will change. ![]() They generally don’t have your best interest at heart and don’t really care when they hurt you. Common behaviors include constant lying, deflecting or shifting blame, creating a codependent relationship, twisting conversations, and giving false hope.Īlso, narcissists can create volatile environments and make you question your self-worth. The manipulation often begins slowly and goes unnoticed by yourself and others. Gaslighting is a technique frequently used by abusive partners which undermines and makes you question your perception and understanding of reality. Physical and sexual abuse are easy to identify, but mental and emotional abuse can be more difficult. It’s time to realize you deserve to be safe and respected. You may have even told yourself, “I may as well stay since I’ve already invested all this time and I’ll learn to cope.” But please, for your sake and for those who love you, do not stay. It does not matter how many years you have invested in a relationship. There are resources out there to help you leave. Whether it is physical, mental, emotional, or sexual abuse, or the threat of abuse, you do not deserve it. As a result, we put this enormous pressure on ourselves to keep the marriage intact, even if it is harmful or dangerous to us. It is wrong, you do not deserve it, and you need to leave that situation as soon as you can.įor years, our culture has told us that running the household and making the marriage work is our duty. There are no if’s, and’s, or but’s when it comes to abuse. For this reason, many older women stay with their partner, even if it is not in their own best interest.īut how do you know when it is time to leave your marriage, versus staying in it? Every woman’s situation is different, but if you are in any of the following situations, regardless of how long you have been married, it may be time to consider your options. It can be terrifying to end a decades-long marriage and start over in your 50s, 60s, and 70s. ![]()
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